There are many of us in this world that seek to be positive and make others happy. What could be wrong with this? For the most part, nothing. This is actually a great way to be - sharing good vibes and putting positive energy out in the universe. However, there is something you need to watch for - and this applies to everyone - always watch out for #1. And you know who that is? YOU!
Personally this was a struggle for me - I didn't want to be selfish but making sure you are healthy in all aspects of life - physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually - requires you to take care of yourself just like you take care of others. There is a difference between self care and selfishness. Remember this! Self care is how we become the best version of ourselves. And if you thought you shared love, happiness and positive vibes before - just you wait to see what you can do!
In my opinion, the most difficult decisions to make around this are who you allow in your life and in what context. Just because someone is related to you by blood does not mean they are family or have your best interests at heart. I won't repeat it but read that sentence again, as often as you need to in order to fully understand! Those who truly love you and want what is best for you will support and encourage you to be the best person that you can no matter what. The ones who get upset with you bettering yourself are those who realize you are setting boundaries and they will not benefit from these. I am personally watching someone I love go through this - being manipulated and lied to for years and allowing it to happen because it's his son. It breaks my heart because I see the pain and heartache he is having over the whole situation but he is struggling to just severe ties. Don't ever let someone make you feel like you owe them anything - you don't (well unless you had some type of pre-agreement or contract but you know what I am speaking about)! Just be the best person you can be and surround yourself with like minded people who want you to be the best you can be!
"Letting go means to come to the realization that some people are a part of your history, but not a part of your destiny." ~Steve Maraboli
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